What if the thing women are craving most right now isn’t another strategy, book, podcast, or program?
What if it’s a space where they don’t have to perform? An actual spaces where a woman can walk in and feel her shoulders drop because there’s nothing expected of her.
The more I pay attention, the more I realize how rare those spaces have become.
Most places in our lives require some level of performance. At work, we’re expected to be competent and composed. In our relationships, we’re often the caretaker, the peacemaker, the responsible one. On social media, we’re presenting some version of ourselves, whether we realize it or not. Even in personal growth spaces, there can be pressure to be self-aware, healed, evolved, or actively working on ourselves.
It’s exhausting when you think about it.
I don’t believe women are only tired because they’re doing too much. I think many are tired because they’re constantly managing themselves.
What I see in so many women is not a lack of capability. It’s the exhaustion that comes from constantly carrying the responsibility of being everything to everyone. They are managing households, careers, relationships, expectations, and often the emotional well-being of the people around them. Somewhere in all of that, they become so focused on who they need to be that they lose touch with who they actually are.
After a while, you can lose touch with what it feels like to simply exist without carrying all of that.
When I created the Wild Awake Ranch, I wasn’t thinking about creating another coaching space. I wasn’t thinking about transformation or breakthroughs or any of the words often associated with this work.
When I created the Wild Awake Ranch, my intention was simple. I wanted women to have a place where they could stop holding everything together for a little while. A place where they didn’t need to be the strong one, the responsible one, or the woman who has it all figured out. Somewhere they could show up exactly as they are that day and know that was enough.
What I love most about the ranch is that it doesn’t require anything from the women who come there. They don’t need to have the answers. They don’t need to be in a certain season of life. They don’t need to be more healed, more confident, or more put together. They simply get to arrive as they are. Over and over again, I’ve watched women settle into that reality and realize how rare it is to be in a space where nothing is expected of them.
Over the years, I’ve welcomed women to the ranch who were navigating all kinds of seasons. Some arrived carrying the weight of grief, heartbreak, burnout, or a major life transition. Others came because they knew something wasn’t working anymore but couldn’t quite articulate what needed to change. And some arrived feeling hopeful, energized, and excited about what was unfolding in their lives.
The ranch doesn’t care whether a woman arrives feeling clear and confident or completely uncertain about her next chapter. There is room for all of it. The pressure to have everything figured out begins to fall away, and what remains is an opportunity to reconnect with herself without needing to rush toward an answer.
In a world that is constantly asking women to improve, achieve, fix, heal, or become something more, the ranch offers a different experience. It quietly reminds women that who they are right now is enough.
The horses have a way of cutting through the noise. They don’t respond to who we think we should be or who we’ve worked hard to convince others we are. They respond to what’s genuine. They meet women where they are, not where they pretend to be. For women who have spent years being strong, capable, and everything everyone else needs them to be, that can be both confronting and incredibly freeing.
The longer I do this work, the more convinced I am that what many women are looking for isn’t another answer. Most of the women I meet are smart, capable, and resourceful. They have shelves full of books, years of life experience, and more information than they know what to do with.
What they often don’t have is space.
Space to hear themselves think. Space to feel what they’re feeling. Space to stop carrying everyone else’s expectations long enough to reconnect with their own truth.
I know that’s what I needed.
It’s also why creating the ranch means so much to me. In a world that constantly tells women who they should be, what they should want, and how they should live, I wanted to create a place where none of that mattered. A place where a woman could show up exactly as she is and discover that there was never anything wrong with her in the first place.
The ranch is different but not because it gives women something they don’t already have, but because it creates enough space for them to remember what has been there all along.