Here’s a compass I come back to again and again when life gets noisy, heavy, or complicated:
Ease. Grace. Joy. Flow.
(Or as I call it, the EGJF Method.)
It’s not a productivity hack or a mindset shift. It’s a standard that I use as a soul-level filter.
Whenever I’m deciding whether to say yes to something—a project, a plan, a relationship, an event, I ask:
Does it pass the EGJF test?
It doesn’t have to hit all four but it has to meet at least two.
And here’s the catch:
Whatever it doesn’t meet must be supported elsewhere.
If something brings me deep joy and flow, but it’s not easy or graceful, I need to intentionally create ease and grace in other parts of my life to hold it.
If a decision feels full of ease and grace but lacks joy or flow, I have to be honest:
Am I choosing comfort over aliveness?
This framework keeps me in check so I’m not trading my nervous system for someone else’s expectations. It keeps me from abandoning myself for the sake of achievement. It helps me remember that just because I can doesn’t mean I should.
The EGJF method is how I choose alignment over obligation. It helps me prioritize the version of me that feels most honest, most alive, most free.
So, what’s on your plate right now?
Run it through the filter.
Does it meet at least two?
If not, can you meet the missing pieces somewhere else?
You deserve a life that honors all four.
You deserve to feel good.
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