I lived addicted to being seen. Performing my worth, glowing on cue, mistaking attention for connection. Maybe some of you are living this way right now.
This is the exhaustion no one talks about; the kind that comes from living life as a performance.
It’s not physical. It’s soul-deep. The kind that comes from always being “on”: available, radiant, responsive, needed. And it masquerades as strength, generosity and love.
But let’s be honest. How often is your light for them, and not for you?
How often do you show up glowing, while some quiet part of you is begging to rest, to retreat, to just be held?
This is the moment you stop outsourcing your light.
Because your radiance? It’s not performance art. It’s medicine but only when it’s rooted inside you first.
You don’t owe anyone your energy especially if it’s costing you your own presence.
Pull your attention back to yourself, breathe into your body and feel what you need, before anyone else’s demands get a say.
This is boundary work not just in action, but in identity.
It’s not just about saying no. It’s about remembering who you are without the pressure, the noise, the roles.
It’s choosing to step away from what drains you, even if it used to feel essential. And it’s building a life that respects your energy rather than one that expects you to burn out to keep it running.
So ask yourself:
Where have I been shining just to keep things smooth—when what I really need is space to feel steady inside?
Then make the honest move. The one that puts you back in your own rhythm.
Take your energy back. Not to punish. Not to disappear. Just long enough to remember it’s yours to choose.