In a world that often celebrates selflessness, the idea of being self-centered might feel uncomfortable. For years, I resisted the term—imagining it meant being selfish, disconnected, or lacking care for others. But recently, I’ve come to understand healthy self-centeredness as something entirely different: a foundational practice for living authentically and sustainably.
Healthy self-centeredness is not about prioritizing yourself at the expense of others. Instead, it’s about grounding yourself in your own truth and needs so that you can show up in your life fully, intentionally, and with integrity. It’s about placing your inner compass at the center of your decision-making—no apologies, no justifications.
Why Healthy Self-Centeredness Matters…
When you allow yourself to be at the center of your life, a powerful shift happens:
Clarity Emerges: When you tune into your needs and desires, you stop being pulled in all directions. You know what you stand for and where you’re headed.
Boundaries Strengthen: Saying “yes” to yourself often requires saying “no” to others. Healthy self-centeredness helps you establish and honor boundaries that protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being.
Deeper Connections: Paradoxically, when you center yourself, you often have more to give. You show up more present, less resentful, and with a greater capacity to truly connect.
Sustainability: Burnout becomes a thing of the past when you prioritize self-care and alignment. Your life feels more nourishing, rather than something to merely endure.
How I’m Practicing This…
For me, embracing healthy self-centeredness has been a journey. As I step further into the Wild Awake Woman*philosophy, I’ve been asking myself:
What feels alive and true to me right now?
Am I saying yes to things out of obligation, or because they truly light me up?
What systems or support can I create to honor my needs consistently?
One tangible shift has been reframing the way I approach my time. I’ve started carving out intentional spaces to check in with myself—without guilt. Whether it’s a morning walk with Jax, a nourishing meal, or simply breathing deeply during a busy day, these moments remind me that centering myself isn’t selfish; it’s essential.
Your Invitation…
What if you allowed yourself to stand at the center of your own life?
What would it feel like to unapologetically prioritize your joy, rest, and fulfillment?
I encourage you to start small. Ask yourself today:
What is one thing I need to feel grounded right now?
How can I honor that need with compassion?
Let me know how this resonates with you—I’d love to hear how healthy self-centeredness shows up in your life.
Here’s to thriving, not just surviving.
