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Lessons Learned from the Show Ring
I came home from the Scottsdale Arabian Horse Show with one Reserve Champion and one Top Ten in very good glasses. I was dialed in for my Reserve Champion class but not so much for my Top Ten class. On paper, it looked like a win. A ribbon. A clean ride. The kind of result that says, “You did great.”
Coming Home to Yourself
Sometimes we tell ourselves a story that a big life shift requires a big life event. This could look like a breakdown, a career collapse, a relationship ending or a health scare. Something dramatic enough to jolt us awake.
The Key to Feeling More Alive
There’s a version of me who knows how to get things done. She’s clear, capable, efficient. She meets deadlines, holds it all together, and has a plan. She’s the version the world has often rewarded. The one people call “strong.” But she’s not the only one who lives here.
When Your Life No Longer Fits
There’s a moment no one prepares you for.
The moment when the life you worked so hard to build, the one you followed all the rules for, suddenly doesn’t feel like your life anymore.
The Identity Mismatch
Lately, I’ve been sitting with the phrase: identity dissonance. Dissonance, by definition, is a lack of harmony. Things that don’t quite line up. And that’s exactly what it feels like when the identity you’ve been living from no longer matches who you’re reclaiming.
When Mindset Work is Not the Answer
I used to believe that if I could just understand something deeply enough, it would change – name it, reframe it, make sense of it. And for a while, that worked. Until it didn’t.
Meri’s Message
I am a planner girl through and through. This applies to all areas of my life including the horses until Meri taught me a lesson. I walked out to work with Meri, my queen energy girl, fully intending to do a gentle connection exercise. I had a plan. A sequence. A vision for how the session should go. But the moment I stepped into the paddock, Meri lifted her head, looked at me, and walked away.